Monthly Archives: August 2012

Warm Blanket of Friendship

Sunset at Bangsaen

It is said that the best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched. They must be felt with the heart. When I consider God’s blessings–the gifts that add beauty and joy to my life, that enables me to keep going through stretches of loneliness, depression, boredom and even more so, in suffering – friendship is definitely near the top.

Adding a wonderful dimension to my life, they help me celebrate the good times and they help me make it through the tough times. I have learned that friendship cross cultural differences, beliefs and traditions…but a communion of souls….

A friend is someone who will take a picture of a sunset and send it to you, simply because she thought it would have been wonderful to share the view together…or simply because she wants to let you feel you’re not alone. 

Thank you for sharing the sunset…

Big Hairy Deal #2

Momminess, sexiness, and prissiness; not at all easy to pull off!   Sexiness?  Nah…I just thought it’d be fun to include that one!

And so to the real issue on hand, (which has nothing to do with sexiness – I assure you!) my hair obsession!  My closest friends can attest, how, when it comes to my hair I’m a little less adventurous…very predictable to say the least.  But a month ago, I ventured out and had my hair done some place else.

Although, that place did an amazing job on my dull and lifeless hair – but as a single mom (money-wise) that is not practical.  Truthfully, I feel guilty to shell out that amount every time I go to the salon.  And so, feeling a little sheepish I went back to my Thai stylist, Chon for this month’s trim.

Raised eyebrow, that’s what I received from him when I entered his shop.  In broken English, he called on his gang to announce “look who the cat dragged in” in the lines of that….but not exactly!  LOL!  So, he asked me, where I’ve been and why I haven’t been back for a while.  I decided to lie and mumbled, “Busy”.

His assistant whisked me to the shampoo area.  And when that’s done Chon motioned me to the chair with scissors on hand and ready to do his magic.

Lifting strands of my hair he peered at my reflection in the mirror “You cut hair?” [sic].  I was actually contemplating to tell another little white lie….but his face!  LOL!  He reminded me of an old schoolmaster, strict and disapproving.  I managed a weak “Yes, some place.”

And he tapped me gently on my shoulders and said, “I know! I remember, this not my cut.” [sic].  I don’t understand how he could have known that….but I guess stylists has this knack of knowing.  I’m thinking to apologize and rant out the blame, to that friend of mine who dragged me to that Japanese salon.  When Chon added, “they, good job” [sic] … a mutual respect of one stylist to another…is not something I get to see every day.  I couldn’t help but smile….it’s rare.

With Chon, happily snipping and chatting away in his faltering English, I feel at home….

That familiarity, the teasing, and easy banter is what I miss last time….something you won’t get from an upscale salon would you?

Call me cheap or what…I’d rather go to a place where it feels like I’m surrounded by friends…

And for saving more than half the price, you’ll also leave the shop with an earful of flattering remarks – enough to tide you till next month’s trim!


With the long weekend coming up (Thai Buddhist Lent) my colleagues at work are edgy and couldn’t seem to wait to jump off from work and head to the beach…or temple…or mountain, this really depends on who I happen to talk to.  So anyway, the weekend coming up is a perfect excuse for everyone to de-stress. 

Personally, I could use a break too – my life seems to get busier as days passes.  Stress is so common in my daily affairs that somehow I just have to deal with it.

Couple of weeks back, a good friend of mine (single parent like me) said I need a vacation – alone!  I guess he’s right, and I have to agree I’m under a lot of stress and needed to get away.  Unfortunately, my schedules and pocket (LOL) won’t allow it right now, so I have to deal/eliminate stress differently – my way.

It’s not that I can jump on a private jet (I wish!) and head off to some secluded island, like celebs do.  But that doesn’t mean I can’t de-stress – can I?  Well, here are some of my favorite ways to de-stress:

I CRY,  yep…and why not?  Women are known to be emotional, and that’s OK .  Every woman needs a good cry…when I’m all stressed up, I allow the tears to flow – although it does make me feel weak and silly but after a few minutes I’m back to normal.  It’s like nothing ever happened, my stress is released and I feel relieved that I can move on with my day….or night.   Oh, yeah just like that….like a flick of a light switch…I cry and then the next minute….I’ll be up and ready to go. LOL!

I DANCE myself silly (in the privacy of my room, of course!).  Just because I’m all grown up doesn’t mean that I can’t partake in the simple joys of childhood.  Personally, it gives me this refreshing nostalgia and the positive associations and memories that melts away whatever that’s pulling me down.

I SLEEP, you have to agree, that nothing beats a good night’s rest  – right?  Whenever, I’m stressed my mind is spinning at a high-speed!   And whether I admit it or not, my body won’t lie when it is exhausted.  So yeah, I sleep it off and most often that shut eye help me relax and allow me to put my problems in perspective.

I MAKE “To Do” List.  I don’t know with you, but I love to be organized.  It doesn’t matter if my “To-Do” list consists of things like “take a shower”, “feed the fish” and “fold the laundry” but each time I check one item off, gives me the feeling that I’ve accomplished something in a day.

I READ.  I love books. Period.  I used to have too many books, but left it at the Ex’s!  Oops!  Anyway, ever since I can remember, reading is one of my favorite things to do.  And besides, it’s a great way for my mind to escape into a new world.

I COOK.   There’s something therapeutic in the process of sharpening the knife (LOL!), chopping, stirring and sautéing.  Need I say more?

I EXERCISE.  With all honesty, I’m a new convert to this.  When, for years the only activity I can remotely compare to exercise is dashing in and out the grocery aisles.  I just realized now that being active can revitalize a person immediately.   Nothing beat the blues like getting your blood pumping, so they say!

I Do my nails.  I like doing my own manicure and pedicure.  There is something soothing and relaxing when I apply colors and experiment on nail art designs… of course the pride that goes with it, when colleagues ask where I had it done….hah!   

….So there, the possibilities are REALLY endless….with a little imagination I can most likely achieve that little haven of stress free long-weekend (at least!)…..and best of all it is cost FREE!