Monthly Archives: September 2016

Is single parenting do-able?

All parenting has its challenges.  And definitely no one needs to tell you that single parenting is tough.

As a single parent myself, I can tell you right now that doing it alone has additional challenges.  But is single parenting do-able?

A big, YES!

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I can say that to you with confidence, that I have made it this far.  The journey wasn’t an easy one…but it’s all a matter of putting one foot in front of another, on a daily basis.

It’s very normal to be depressed at the beginning, but as time goes you, as a single-parent you will figure out your own rhythm.

It all starts how you view the challenges you have right in front of you.

Any challenge is surmountable – it only requires an extra dose of courage and determination.  I have to mention as well, it is very important to have a very strong support group.  In my case, I am truly blessed to have my parents, along with their wisdom on those dark, dark days helped me survive it through.

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For many years now, not only have I survived, together with my daughters, we thrived.  We have developed a loving bond that have taken us through many rough spots.  It is the same bond that will see us through for the rest of our lives.

Single parenting was never a choice for me, I never planned this, ironically this is one area in my life I didn’t see coming.

But, I am happy to share  that I have made it work…

…and you can too.

 

 

 

How to doodle like a boss that you are :)

Calling more doodlers!

 

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Late last year, coloring books for adults became something of a trend.  And honestly, I dabbled with it – but after 2 unfinished pages, I gave up.  While, indeed it was relaxing and promised to be a stress-buster…it’s really not for me.

There’s something constricting with the fact that I have to keep my colors within the lines and not to mention instead of de-stressing me,  it was the opposite!

It annoys and stresses me by trying to keep my color strokes in one direction!

And yes, it nearly drove me nuts – why I do have to keep my colors so neat and tidy?

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Perhaps it’s the “artistic” rebellion in me, or I’m more of a “doodler”.

Doodling feels more spontaneous, speaking from professional work experience doodling help me figure out complex concepts time and time again….

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…..on a personal level somehow it makes emotions appear genuine.

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Mind you, I’m far from an artist that you probably envision…. my doodling skills are generally limited to stick figures, straight lines, circles, globs, and tons of squiggly lines.

But, I don’t care.  It relaxes me and it’s a great way to pass time, where I simply let my hand do the thinking.

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If you would like to give doodling a try, here’s how to start doodling like a boss that you are!

  1. Keep your tools on hand.  You need to be prepared to doodle, anywhere.  Inspiration and boredom are really sneaky – they can strike anytime!  You need to be prepared.
  1. Don’t stress yourself of making your doodles perfect. That’s the beauty of it.  Who cares if you can only draw stick figures, and lines?  Just doodle.
  2. Be free. Draw whatever you want, you don’t have to restrict yourself with a theme or concept.  Pshesh! No one is judging you – and it’s more likely no one will even see your work of art.

My supplies are pretty basic – notebook, my favorite fountain pen (a gift from mother 🙂 ) – pencil, rubber, and highlighter.  While some of my more artistic friends do carry around pastels, charcoal and color pencils.  I just don’t feel the need to be that ambitious with my tools.

So there, I hope this inspired  you (even a bit) that doodling is a great way to express your ideas, and of course yourself!

 

 

Nanay’s Garden (lessons I learned from my mother’s garden)

garden-gate-966108_640For many years, I’ve never fully understood my mother and her passion for gardening. She never seems to tire out in re-arranging those pots of flowers and not to mention the constant uprooting and re-planting of those poor (poor) plants. Sometimes, I imagine if only her plants can talk, they might have already complained. But on the contrary, her plants will always be in bloom.

My Nanay is one of those few people gifted with a green thumb. To her, gardening is not only a good exercise but it is her way to provide fresh flowers for the family, or an aesthetic view for any house visitors. And if she happens to like you that much, she’ll definitely tour you around her precious garden. A truly enlightening experience, as she’ll always have a story to tell about each plant. Where she got it, how she got it – you wouldn’t believe the extremes my mother would do just to get a certain variety of plant. And numerous other stories… about her beloved plants.

I now know that God may have more in mind for my mother’s gardening gift. And despite our distance, I’m constantly on the updates of which variety is in bloom, how she was able to nurse back an ailing seedling or how she was able to “grow” a certain bulb or seed I’ve sent her (which of course, I truly have no clue!).

And in the past few days, I’ve made some reflections on how my mother influenced me. In ways she may not even be consciously aware of and how God shows Himself and His ways in her humble garden.

The garden reflects the miracles God is doing in our lives. How weeds – like sins has to be rooted out. Spacing is necessary for productive garden, and the various factors needed for growth and the effect of the season change.flower-442592_640

The regular “watering” is vital, spiritual growth is impossible without the Bible. And of course, the “tilling” of the soil is prayer – daily conversations with our Father, without which, it will drift us away from Him.

I’m sure my Nanay would agree that one of the pleasures of gardening is to be able to share the beauty and freshness of the garden with others. To be able to bring an armful of blooming flowers to a sick friend or neighbor that will warm the heart of the giver as the receiver.

As an adult I have experienced an abundance of blessings through our Lord and Savior. One of the pleasures and duties of the Christian life is to share Christ, the author of such blessings, with others so that they, too, are able to be blessed.

Thank you Nanay….for your love and for sharing the “growing seasons”.