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2016…and it’s a wrap!

letgoandmoveforwardI’m a little behind with my writing this year.  Quite frankly, 2016 has been one of the toughest year for me.

Since beginning of December I have been thinking of how to wrap up this year’s blog. And…..nothing.  My brain just wouldn’t focus on one specific topic to write about – and despite of all the negativity…I really want to end this year on a high note.

 

As this turbulent year comes to its close, I would rather want to focus the positives and the things I have learned throughout the year.

Here are the things  I have learned this year.  (Monthly excerpts from my journal)

  1. There is Triumph in Unanswered Prayers.  This may seem weird to some, but this year I have come to understand the reason behind the unanswered prayer I had for years.  Just be patient, there is always a reason behind. beautiful
  2. Happiness is synthetic.  We always hear people say “Happiness is a choice.”  It’s as simple as you either create it or you don’t.joy
  3. End things where there is no chance of improved future interactions.  It’s always not easy to let go of things/people that we have grown attached to over the years.  However, if despite our best efforts if the behavior or the situation remains the same.  Maybe it’s time to re-evaluate and let go of the those toxicity in life. toxic
  4. Inspire others.  In order to nurture and inspire human spirit, one must be first and foremost an inspiration. This is probably one of the toughest lesson.  If you’re not an inspiration…..then what are you?inspire.jpg
  5. People will talk, let them.  Learn to ignore those mundane village talk.  The best defense is to smile and ignore.  Remember, humans will never understand the language of the ants.  positive
  6. It’s always easy to clean your mess when someone is helping. A mess is always easier to clean when you have someone helping you.  Sometimes we rely too much in our independence and our ability to rationalize things, that we forgot to invite our Father to help us clean the mess … the mess that mostly we ourselves created.letgod
  7. Tough days shouldn’t break your spirit. baddays
  8. Stop comparing yourself with others.  Take pride in the person that you have become. be-you
  9. Failure is not the end.  According to Winston Churchill, “Success consist of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm.”  fairlure
  10. What consumes your mind controls your heart.  Have you ever thought that whatever you think the most will likely manifest in your life?  Thus if you fill your mind with negativity, then negative things will follow you wherever you go.train
  11. A small twinkle creates the brightest glow.  Sometimes, the best things comes from small and most often underrated things in life. bestthings
  12. Better things are coming. I have learned that hope is one of the greatest virtue one could ever imbibe.  Don’t give up on things….there is always hope of the better things to come.hopeandfaith

 

Opps, my bad! I could’ve sworn I was dealing with an Adult! (How to Handle Childish Adults)

Some people never grow up completely.  

Unfortunately to some of us, we see them everyday at work.  

Here are some signs you are dealing with childish adult and how to handle them.suit-673697_1280

1. Attention Seekers:

These people are actually pathetic.  They crave for attention all the time, this usually reflects a deep-seated lack of self-worth and self-confidence.  Although they are pathetic, they will eventually get in your nerves and can be very annoying.

How to Handle:

Don’t give them the attention they need.  As difficult as it may be, simply excuse yourself when they start talking about themselves.  If they are bragging their achievements on social media, don’t give them the satisfaction of hitting that “like” button.  Doing so, will only feed their abnormal need for validation.

2. Whiners:

Nothing is ever quite right with these people.  They are never completely happy about anything.  If you say that it’s a nice day, they’ll probably reply that it’s going to rain tomorrow.  All they ever do is whine, whine and whine.

How to Handle:

Don’t join in the complaining or start whining yourself.  Whining is CONTAGIOUS, if you’re not careful you’ll soon become the whiner’s buddy.  Just change the subject and try to shift focus from past problems to future goals.  If the behavior persists, you may simply want to avoid these people.

3. Tattletales:

They love to tell stories and ratting out to colleagues.  Other times, they will embellish it to make it sound even more dramatic.  Again, this is blatantly childlike.

How to Handle:

If the information is inaccurate, let the tattler know this is erroneous.  If the information is accurate, please ask the tattler to please share concerns that are productive.  Needless to say, tattlers need to be directly confronted.

4. Forming Cliques:

They eat lunch together, work and talk exclusively to one another & etc.  In short, you see them together all the time!    The point is they see themselves as special, and they probably did the same thing in middle school.

How to Handle:

These are silly people, it will not be rewarding to interact with them.  Be friendly when you have to work with them on projects and simply ignore them the rest of the time.


DISCLAIMER:  This is a personal blog, that fact means nothing 🙂 ! It is not a product of strict grammar gatekeeping and editing.  But it does mean something to me, the ideas and thoughts are often important (again to me) and most often, product of a long gestational period in the drafts folder….while the writing itself is not.  Usually, as ideas come from the gray matter to the keyboard are – spontaneous, unproofed, unrevised and corrected afterward only when necessary.  

 

 

I feel blessed…thank you, for your birthday wishes….

I’m touched with all the birthday wishes I have received from all of you.  I must admit I’m useless in keeping in touch with everyone, but thank you for all your thoughtfulness.girl-1245731_1280

I know a lot of people freak out about birthdays…but not me, I  just let it pass like any other day – no biggie!  Ideally, I’d rather spend a quiet day at home.

But like every year, I spend it at work.  It’s pretty much a regular day for me…something that I will have to repeat all over again next year. Besides,  I’ve never been much of a worrier about age, well what can I say…that no amount of Botox can change the fact that I’m 40?

So, I’m not really fretting about age and birthdays (mine at least!) and since I’m not in a business of attracting men – the decay that age brings year after year doesn’t bother me.

What can I really say now that I’m 40?  It does seem like an awful big milestone….considering this year was extra challenging.  Maybe what I can really say that despite of everything I still have many blessings to count.

I have my two lovely girls Kate and Ashley, who anchor and mean the whole world to me.  My parents, my brother for their boundless love and support…my relatives and  friends for the love, love, love.

Truly my dears you have proven that love and concern transcends

the boundaries of time, distance and physical encounters.

So another year…a few more wrinkles here and there…..but it’s all worth it.  My continued existence is proof that the Lord has been faithfully forgiving to me.  Shaping me from within, filling that hole in my heart, keeping me in check that life is not all about me…..rather urging me to focus above.

Thank you Lord for another year.

“Halloween-ed” (for Filipinos, it’s our Day of the Dead holiday celebration)

Halloween is coming!  And it’s probably one of my secret favorite holiday.  Why?  Because I’m naturally drawn to all things morbid or downright spooky!graveyard-1417871_640

But seriously, some of you might argue why it shouldn’t be observed because of its pagan origins, but really do we need to drive that wedge between us?   And debate what’s Pagan vs. Christian practices?

From where I come from, the experience is mainly focused in remembering those who went ahead. Especially in my family, it’s that once a year get together of relatives – from different parts of the archipelago (even those relatives living abroad).

It’s that once-a-year-family-time to gather and celebrate the lives of those we’ve loved and lost.

You see, in the Philippines, we celebrate Halloween in a unique way. It’s more like a 3-day celebration.  Starting off, on the eve of October 31st.  Then on November 1, we celebrate the “All Saints Day”, followed by the celebration of “All Souls Day/Day of the Dead” or for us, we call it “Undas” or “Araw ng mga Patay”.

It’s probably one of the festive (that sounds downright wrong) family gathering.  But in reality, we Filipinos celebrate these dates as a “pause button”,  to take a break from our busy lives to spare some time to remember our departed loved ones.

The celebration is usually started off by visiting our dearly departed’s resting places where we take time to light some candles, clean their graves, plant fresh flowers, re-paint the crosses or tombstones. cemetery-1543543_640

And it’s usually a family affair.  From the oldest to the youngest member, everyone is present.  Armed with paint brushes, and cleaning tools, everyone is ready to do their part.

And speaking from experience, it’s not morbid as you may think it is.  The cemeteries all throughout the  country comes alive, with the sheer number of people visiting their loved ones.  It’s very normal to see food, drinks (maybe a bit of alcohol to some) on top of tombs (not very hygienic – but who cares!) and for those richer folks, they will even hire a caterer to be set up at their family’s mausoleum.  Then of course you’ll hear blasting music all around and maybe some dancing – especially when you have sipped one too many vino 😉

It may sound weird to some, but the Philippines’ Day of the Dead is a celebration for the entire family.

Filipinos value family’s strong bonds.  Even in death, our dearly beloved members will never truly leave us….we celebrate their lives – once a year we all gather as a family, to remember their lives, swap stories of the happy memories they have left us.

And to borrow my mom’s wise words, when someone passes in our family “…till we meet again…”

It’s never goodbye, for us…..it’s only, till that one sweet day….

Happy Halloween to all my loves back home!

How to doodle like a boss that you are :)

Calling more doodlers!

 

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Late last year, coloring books for adults became something of a trend.  And honestly, I dabbled with it – but after 2 unfinished pages, I gave up.  While, indeed it was relaxing and promised to be a stress-buster…it’s really not for me.

There’s something constricting with the fact that I have to keep my colors within the lines and not to mention instead of de-stressing me,  it was the opposite!

It annoys and stresses me by trying to keep my color strokes in one direction!

And yes, it nearly drove me nuts – why I do have to keep my colors so neat and tidy?

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Perhaps it’s the “artistic” rebellion in me, or I’m more of a “doodler”.

Doodling feels more spontaneous, speaking from professional work experience doodling help me figure out complex concepts time and time again….

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…..on a personal level somehow it makes emotions appear genuine.

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Mind you, I’m far from an artist that you probably envision…. my doodling skills are generally limited to stick figures, straight lines, circles, globs, and tons of squiggly lines.

But, I don’t care.  It relaxes me and it’s a great way to pass time, where I simply let my hand do the thinking.

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If you would like to give doodling a try, here’s how to start doodling like a boss that you are!

  1. Keep your tools on hand.  You need to be prepared to doodle, anywhere.  Inspiration and boredom are really sneaky – they can strike anytime!  You need to be prepared.
  1. Don’t stress yourself of making your doodles perfect. That’s the beauty of it.  Who cares if you can only draw stick figures, and lines?  Just doodle.
  2. Be free. Draw whatever you want, you don’t have to restrict yourself with a theme or concept.  Pshesh! No one is judging you – and it’s more likely no one will even see your work of art.

My supplies are pretty basic – notebook, my favorite fountain pen (a gift from mother 🙂 ) – pencil, rubber, and highlighter.  While some of my more artistic friends do carry around pastels, charcoal and color pencils.  I just don’t feel the need to be that ambitious with my tools.

So there, I hope this inspired  you (even a bit) that doodling is a great way to express your ideas, and of course yourself!

 

 

How to deal with “GENIUSES”

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I have to admit that I’m very good in keeping my emotions at bay.  It’s safe to say by now,  I have mastered the art of keeping a straight face even what I really want to do is shake someone like a little glow stick until that light comes on.

Yes.  I have a VERY short fuse.  It’s like, I have this little monster inside, that’s ready to explode at any given time, if I’m not careful.

If there’s an anger management classes available in Phuket, I’d probably be the first one to sign-up.  While I don’t often allow the most ridiculous, meaningless things to ruin my day.  But sometimes, people will really test you….

Like, REALLY, REALLY test you!

Sometimes, I imagine if people can only see what’s going on in my mind – they’ll be horrified…it’s all blood, gore and all those nasty words that you will have a hard time imagining come out from someone like me.

Fine, I have that shallowness in me….but I would like to think it isn’t as deep as it could be.  Otherwise it wouldn’t bother me after my outburst.  On the contrary, whenever I let these selfish feelings get the best of me … I feel remorseful (well, a bit).

We have our moments….those times in our lives when we have difficulty putting things in perspective.  So, after letting out my silent screams and exhausted myself from assaulting poor paper and pen…I STOP, take a deep breath and remind myself I have to stay thankful.

Today, since I’m feeling extra nasty nice …I would like to share ways I remind myself to be thankful.

  1. Accept more, Expect less.  There are things beyond our control, I have learned that acceptance is a wonderful remedy to a heavy heart.  If someone you know is as dense as humanly possible.  Accept it.   It’s not their fault, neither you should be stressing yourself over them, in the hopes that they will change.  Sometimes change is simply not possible for everyone.  Get over it, and move on.
  2. Forgiveness. They said is the healthiest and stabilizing emotion…go ahead and forgive that impossible person in your life…deep breath and “I forgive you for being  *&%$#%$%!!!!”
  3. Accept that there are two types of people, those who understand sarcasm and idiots.….so deal with it and move on.
  4. Move on. There is really no point to waste your time explaining something to someone stupid…because really, you’re not a jackass whisperer. As Elsa would say, “let it go…”

 

 

Blink. Blink. Blink. (The nightmare of the blinking cursor)

Blink.  Blink.  Blink.

Blinking cursor.  White screen.  Blank.

It’s terrifying at times when I want to put up fresh content and yet my brain is totally blank.

Ah!  The nightmare of the blinking cursor!

I’ve been back for 8 days now….after a short break visiting relatives and catching on some family matters.  Hoping that the short break will actually generate more blog topics – I could never be more wrong!

So, here I am staring at my monitor screen for what seem like days with nothing.  My brain is totally blank!  Oh, how I really wish to be able to; A) borrow a brain, or B) steal from others.

Information + Inspiration   =   Creation

That’s what I really need at this very moment.