Is single parenting do-able?

All parenting has its challenges.  And definitely no one needs to tell you that single parenting is tough.

As a single parent myself, I can tell you right now that doing it alone has additional challenges.  But is single parenting do-able?

A big, YES!

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I can say that to you with confidence, that I have made it this far.  The journey wasn’t an easy one…but it’s all a matter of putting one foot in front of another, on a daily basis.

It’s very normal to be depressed at the beginning, but as time goes you, as a single-parent you will figure out your own rhythm.

It all starts how you view the challenges you have right in front of you.

Any challenge is surmountable – it only requires an extra dose of courage and determination.  I have to mention as well, it is very important to have a very strong support group.  In my case, I am truly blessed to have my parents, along with their wisdom on those dark, dark days helped me survive it through.

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For many years now, not only have I survived, together with my daughters, we thrived.  We have developed a loving bond that have taken us through many rough spots.  It is the same bond that will see us through for the rest of our lives.

Single parenting was never a choice for me, I never planned this, ironically this is one area in my life I didn’t see coming.

But, I am happy to share  that I have made it work…

…and you can too.

 

 

 

How to doodle like a boss that you are :)

Calling more doodlers!

 

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Late last year, coloring books for adults became something of a trend.  And honestly, I dabbled with it – but after 2 unfinished pages, I gave up.  While, indeed it was relaxing and promised to be a stress-buster…it’s really not for me.

There’s something constricting with the fact that I have to keep my colors within the lines and not to mention instead of de-stressing me,  it was the opposite!

It annoys and stresses me by trying to keep my color strokes in one direction!

And yes, it nearly drove me nuts – why I do have to keep my colors so neat and tidy?

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Perhaps it’s the “artistic” rebellion in me, or I’m more of a “doodler”.

Doodling feels more spontaneous, speaking from professional work experience doodling help me figure out complex concepts time and time again….

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…..on a personal level somehow it makes emotions appear genuine.

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Mind you, I’m far from an artist that you probably envision…. my doodling skills are generally limited to stick figures, straight lines, circles, globs, and tons of squiggly lines.

But, I don’t care.  It relaxes me and it’s a great way to pass time, where I simply let my hand do the thinking.

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If you would like to give doodling a try, here’s how to start doodling like a boss that you are!

  1. Keep your tools on hand.  You need to be prepared to doodle, anywhere.  Inspiration and boredom are really sneaky – they can strike anytime!  You need to be prepared.
  1. Don’t stress yourself of making your doodles perfect. That’s the beauty of it.  Who cares if you can only draw stick figures, and lines?  Just doodle.
  2. Be free. Draw whatever you want, you don’t have to restrict yourself with a theme or concept.  Pshesh! No one is judging you – and it’s more likely no one will even see your work of art.

My supplies are pretty basic – notebook, my favorite fountain pen (a gift from mother 🙂 ) – pencil, rubber, and highlighter.  While some of my more artistic friends do carry around pastels, charcoal and color pencils.  I just don’t feel the need to be that ambitious with my tools.

So there, I hope this inspired  you (even a bit) that doodling is a great way to express your ideas, and of course yourself!

 

 

Nanay’s Garden (lessons I learned from my mother’s garden)

garden-gate-966108_640For many years, I’ve never fully understood my mother and her passion for gardening. She never seems to tire out in re-arranging those pots of flowers and not to mention the constant uprooting and re-planting of those poor (poor) plants. Sometimes, I imagine if only her plants can talk, they might have already complained. But on the contrary, her plants will always be in bloom.

My Nanay is one of those few people gifted with a green thumb. To her, gardening is not only a good exercise but it is her way to provide fresh flowers for the family, or an aesthetic view for any house visitors. And if she happens to like you that much, she’ll definitely tour you around her precious garden. A truly enlightening experience, as she’ll always have a story to tell about each plant. Where she got it, how she got it – you wouldn’t believe the extremes my mother would do just to get a certain variety of plant. And numerous other stories… about her beloved plants.

I now know that God may have more in mind for my mother’s gardening gift. And despite our distance, I’m constantly on the updates of which variety is in bloom, how she was able to nurse back an ailing seedling or how she was able to “grow” a certain bulb or seed I’ve sent her (which of course, I truly have no clue!).

And in the past few days, I’ve made some reflections on how my mother influenced me. In ways she may not even be consciously aware of and how God shows Himself and His ways in her humble garden.

The garden reflects the miracles God is doing in our lives. How weeds – like sins has to be rooted out. Spacing is necessary for productive garden, and the various factors needed for growth and the effect of the season change.flower-442592_640

The regular “watering” is vital, spiritual growth is impossible without the Bible. And of course, the “tilling” of the soil is prayer – daily conversations with our Father, without which, it will drift us away from Him.

I’m sure my Nanay would agree that one of the pleasures of gardening is to be able to share the beauty and freshness of the garden with others. To be able to bring an armful of blooming flowers to a sick friend or neighbor that will warm the heart of the giver as the receiver.

As an adult I have experienced an abundance of blessings through our Lord and Savior. One of the pleasures and duties of the Christian life is to share Christ, the author of such blessings, with others so that they, too, are able to be blessed.

Thank you Nanay….for your love and for sharing the “growing seasons”.

 

How to deal with “GENIUSES”

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I have to admit that I’m very good in keeping my emotions at bay.  It’s safe to say by now,  I have mastered the art of keeping a straight face even what I really want to do is shake someone like a little glow stick until that light comes on.

Yes.  I have a VERY short fuse.  It’s like, I have this little monster inside, that’s ready to explode at any given time, if I’m not careful.

If there’s an anger management classes available in Phuket, I’d probably be the first one to sign-up.  While I don’t often allow the most ridiculous, meaningless things to ruin my day.  But sometimes, people will really test you….

Like, REALLY, REALLY test you!

Sometimes, I imagine if people can only see what’s going on in my mind – they’ll be horrified…it’s all blood, gore and all those nasty words that you will have a hard time imagining come out from someone like me.

Fine, I have that shallowness in me….but I would like to think it isn’t as deep as it could be.  Otherwise it wouldn’t bother me after my outburst.  On the contrary, whenever I let these selfish feelings get the best of me … I feel remorseful (well, a bit).

We have our moments….those times in our lives when we have difficulty putting things in perspective.  So, after letting out my silent screams and exhausted myself from assaulting poor paper and pen…I STOP, take a deep breath and remind myself I have to stay thankful.

Today, since I’m feeling extra nasty nice …I would like to share ways I remind myself to be thankful.

  1. Accept more, Expect less.  There are things beyond our control, I have learned that acceptance is a wonderful remedy to a heavy heart.  If someone you know is as dense as humanly possible.  Accept it.   It’s not their fault, neither you should be stressing yourself over them, in the hopes that they will change.  Sometimes change is simply not possible for everyone.  Get over it, and move on.
  2. Forgiveness. They said is the healthiest and stabilizing emotion…go ahead and forgive that impossible person in your life…deep breath and “I forgive you for being  *&%$#%$%!!!!”
  3. Accept that there are two types of people, those who understand sarcasm and idiots.….so deal with it and move on.
  4. Move on. There is really no point to waste your time explaining something to someone stupid…because really, you’re not a jackass whisperer. As Elsa would say, “let it go…”

 

 

Blink. Blink. Blink. (The nightmare of the blinking cursor)

Blink.  Blink.  Blink.

Blinking cursor.  White screen.  Blank.

It’s terrifying at times when I want to put up fresh content and yet my brain is totally blank.

Ah!  The nightmare of the blinking cursor!

I’ve been back for 8 days now….after a short break visiting relatives and catching on some family matters.  Hoping that the short break will actually generate more blog topics – I could never be more wrong!

So, here I am staring at my monitor screen for what seem like days with nothing.  My brain is totally blank!  Oh, how I really wish to be able to; A) borrow a brain, or B) steal from others.

Information + Inspiration   =   Creation

That’s what I really need at this very moment.

 

RRL’s Lazy Packing List (how to pack like a boss, that you are!)

I know I should start my packing now.  With my early morning flight tomorrow, and my type-A-ish personality, I should be doing that.  Like… right now!

…but hey, sometimes lazy bug does get me.  Usually, this kind of thing gets me “high” I love the idea of planning, figuring out what to bring and the actual act of stuffing the suitcase.

But not today…

At the very least, I managed to list down what I intend to bring.

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RRL’s Lazy Packing List 🙂 

Arrrrghh….looking at my list, I seem to have missed out another set of clothing – my return flight outfit.  Hmmm…come to think of it….I don’t remember boarding the plane requires a “smell-check”.

Well, there’s always a first!

…..hmmm…smelly flight back…here I come???

LOL!

Love. Love. Love you all.

Talk soon.

 

My Brain Has Too Many Tabs Open

It’s exhilarating to have my brain back! The past few months was like functioning on “automaton”.  The pressures of moving to a new place, new work and tmy-brain-has-too-many-tabs-open-quote-1he traveling certainly took its toll on me.  I’m usually very good in maintaining my blog updates…but sitting down and typing my thoughts away was definitely very challenging.

I believe we all have our own stress threshold; it’s humbling for me to recognize my optimum level.  And for each of us, there is a point where stress becomes distress.

It’s a bit distressing (on my part) to realize that I haven’t been very good with my time.  For someone who prided herself to be very good at it….that speaks a lot.  The reason why I was feeling overwhelm was probably because I tried to push myself too hard on things I have no control over.

While, I’m not totally out of my “woods” yet….but the fact that I started to write and ramble on – is always a good sign.

I’d like to extend my love to all my lovely friends who have been patient, while I’ve gone MIA yet again.

Love. Love. Love.

Talk soon!